Fat + Flirty: The Best Sex Positions for Plus Size Women
Having a larger body comes with a whole set of its own challenges from finding the perfect towel to finding a super cute dress that fits you.
But there are few of these challenges that can make you feel as inadequate as trying to figure out how to master sex, especially if youâve got a particularly attractive partner with you.
It can be a challenge for us ladies to get on the dating saddle (figuratively speaking, unless youâre a fan of cowgirl) in the first place.
But when the clothes come off we have a whole host of new feelings and insecurities pop in.
Namely, what to do with all of these moving parts while weâre trying to have a little fun in the bedroom.
From navigating where your stomach should go to showing off your bootie without overshadowing the rest of your body, thereâs a lot to think about.
Luckily, there are a few enjoyable sex positions for plus size women that work like a charm.
Whether you want to ride that cowboy, get down on all fours or open up like a butterfly, thereâs something that will work for your next bedroom-focused date.
Assuming plain olâ missionary isnât really your thing or youâre looking to expand beyond that, then one these eight sex positons that are comfortable (and fun) for fat women might be perfect for your next romp:
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Best sex positions for plus size women
Doggy Style
While Iâm not a fan of the name âdoggy styleâ I can confidently say that this is one of the more comfortable sex positions for plus size women that not only gets the job done, but does it well.
What makes this particular position appealing to the plus size lady is the fact that your stomach isnât getting in the way (which it can want to do using some of the more traditional positions).
However, you trade off by needing to support your weight on your knees and arms.
For those unfamiliar with this particular sex position, you get down on your hands and knees (ie. on all fours) and your partner enters from behind.
Larger butts can often make rear entry* a challenge in many positions, but the additional exposure given from this particular angle can break that barrier down.
*By ârear entryâ I donât mean anal⊠unless thatâs your thing, then you go girl!
You can make a slight modification to this particular position by using an adjustable wedge pillow.
With a wedge pillow tucked under your stomach and the straight and flat up-and-down side against your thighs, you take a little pressure off your knees and give yourself a soft landing.
In this case, I would recommend remaining on your knees but lying against the pillow and keeping your arms flat against the bed so only your butt is in the air.
Honestly, this lands you more in crunched turtle territory, but I’m going to let it slide.
The butterfly
Who doesnât want to spread their wings and fly like a butterflyâpeople who donât enjoy having fun, thatâs who.
If youâre truly struggling to find a sex position that works with your plus size body, this is the one Iâd recommend trying out.
I will warn that there might be some configuring requirements on this one, depending on your partnerâs height.
It requires them to stand at the edge of the bed on the floor while you lie down.
Youâll want to scoot yourself right up to the edge of the bed, lie down face-up, and put your legs up on their chest.
Your legs will be at a 90 degree angle from the bed, like you’re using your partner as the seat of a chair.
Trying to keep your legs straight is crucial, because bending them can cause some unnecessary discomfort.
If having your legs straight is an issue, you can switch it up by either having your partner hold your thighs while their pointed straight off the bed.
Or you can wrap them around their back.
If you find that your entry window (AKA your vagina) is a little too low for your partner, you can use a wedge pillow to help raise your butt up to their level.
Superwoman
Making a tiny modification to the Butterflyâflipping over onto your stomachâwill land you in superwoman position, and who doesnât want to be the heroine of their own story?
Exactly like the Butterfly, youâre going to want to lie down on the bed, but this time on your stomach.
Your partner will, again, have to be the right height to accomplish the job or you can use a triangle pillow to help prop you to the right height.
Theyâll also need to hold your thighs while you point your legs straight backwards.
This position is essentially a mix between lying on the bed like the butterfly and being penetrated from behind like doggy style.
Itâs a great position if youâre looking for something simple and relaxing.
Sexy and seated
Now, Iâve never personally tried using the assistance of a chair during sex, but Iâm told itâs one of the best sex positions for plus size women.
It has all of the sexy appeal of an up-close-and-personal literal lap dance that could make your night heavenly.
For this position, youâll need a sturdy chair.
Your partner will sit on the chair and youâll squat yourself on top of him forwards or backwardsâwhichever works best for you.
Forwards might be a bit more stable because youâll likely have more luck planting your feet firmly on the floor.
For the seated sex position, youâll want to make sure that youâve set the firm on the floor thatâs unlikely to be slippery so it doesnât slide around.
Youâll get all the action you need right from your partner.
If you need a little assistance with your balance, ask your partner to hold you steady at the waist.
Cowgirl (or reversed)
If youâre the riding type, then using either cowgirl or reverse cowgirl can give you a pleasurable experience, even if youâre carrying a little more weight than your partner.
This is one of those sex positions that plus size women shy away from, but you might be pleasantly surprised how well it works.
With cowgirl, your partner lies down on the bed and you straddle them, facing forward.
For the reversed maneuver, youâll want to turn around and face their feet.
Reverse cowgirl is better if you need to add a little stability by leaning over on your palms.
This position also adds the option of adding some extra self-stimulation in there. Or you can step it up a notch and bring out your favorite vibrator.
Spooning
I feel like spooning is one of the most referenced sex positionsâIâm not sure why I think that but alas, I do. In any case, itâs a great close-contact sex position for plus size women.
When you spoon, you and your partner lie down on your side with your partner behind you. Your partner then lifts your top leg up so they can perform a rear entry*.
*Again, not referring to anal hereâbut you do you! Though, word of warning, anal in this position might be a little challenging for those of us that carry more weight because you’ll need to get yourself in a backwards crab-like position.
For extra stability, lay the hand thatâs closest to the bed above your head and use your second hand to support you on the bed.
And your partner can have a hands-free experience that allows for clitoral and nipple stimulation by using their knee to support your leg.
This is a great position if you feel unstable in a more upright position.
Plus it allows for an optimal cuddling opportunity afterâno repositioning required!
If you want to face your partner, you can flip over into the Loverâs Embrace position.
To allow entry, youâll need to lift your leg up over your partnerâs knee and theyâll want to support your hips with their hands.
If youâre looking for something slower and more sensual, this is a great modification.
Deep impact
If deep penetration is your ideal outcome, then the best sex positon for your plus size body might just be the deep impact position.
As the title implies, itâs great if you want your partner to get as up in your grill as possible (the âgrillâ in this situation being your vagina).
To accomplish this position, youâll want to lie on your back on the bed with your partner kneeling between your knees.
Theyâll have to help you scoot up their knees so your butt is resting on their thighs, you can use a wedge to help with this.
You have a few leg options in this positionâyou can wrap your legs behind their back, rest them on your partnerâs chest or bend your knees and put them flat on the bed (if your legs are long enough).
This is another great position if youâre looking for the option for self-stimulation.
If you go that route, your partner will have the best seat in the house.
Crunched turtle
If youâre looking for something simple and easy that doesnât require you to do a lot of supporting or twist your leg around like a pretzel. Itâs a great option if you struggle with the spooning position.
To get into position, youâre going to want to get on all fours but crouch down on your knees and forearms (similar to childâs pose in yoga).
This way your butt will be high in the air and exposed so your partner can kneel behind you and penetrate you from behind.
Per usual, this can be made easier with the assistance of a convertible wedge pillow.
You can modify this position a little if you want by taking it sideways.
You can use your arms to pillow your head or you can use a free hand to self stimulate⊠whateverâs your pleasure!
More sex tips for plus size women
Sex as a plus size woman is a topic we tend to avoid, but being more open about it can help us get over some of the fear and anxiety involved in the process.
It can be incredibly nerve-wracking to undress and let someone into your personal space if youâre uncomfortable with your own body.
But hereâs the thingâif your partner is standing in your room naked, chances are they want to be there.
Regardless of how you clothe yourself, they know you have a little extra cushion in some areas.
And, in my experience, if theyâre there, theyâre game for doinâ it with a big gal. So, go for it and donât be afraid to dress up (or down) if you want to!
What if your partner is also plus size?
While the sex positions Iâve outlined above were picked with a focus on pleasure and comfort for a plus size women, itâs entirely possible that your partner also has a bigger body.
If thatâs the case, you might need to make some further alterations.
If you have a plus size partner, you might want to avoid positions that require them to stand or kneel as well.
Something like spooning or the loverâs embrace might be your best bet.
Likewise, having sex seated can also be a good choice for two plus size bodies.
Get comfortable with each other, try a few positions out and get into something that works for both of you.
Modify where you need it
The thing about sex positions is that theyâre not set in stone. There are no rules about what you can do whenâeverything is up for negotiation. And you can always make modifications.
Itâs OK to kneel instead of sitting or lying down, use the floor instead of the bed if you need a little less movement (or, girl, solid pieces of furniture like a well-built table can be a blessing as well).
You can also use pillows for maximum positioning, and stabilize yourself on a piece of furniture (the back of the couch provides an exceptional sex-assist).
The key about having sex as a plus size women is that you need to be comfortableâhonestly, this is the case plus size or not.
Your sexcapades should be a fun time for you and your partner to connect and enjoy each other’s bodies.
Talk it out
There is absolutely nothing wrong with voicing your opinion.
If youâre nervous about trying something, or thereâs something you want to try but youâre not sure how to accomplish it, talk to your partner!
Two heads are better than one, as they say, so why not try figuring it out together?
I know talking about your body while trying to get it on can be an uncomfortable idea for many bigger women, but thereâs no reason to feel that way.
Truthfully, Iâve never been in a situation where my partner was like bahahaha, your fat in the middle of sex.
In fact, the reaction has been the total opposite with my partner going all-in to figure out how to do something. And, if at any point you need or want to stop, do it!
What about sex toys?
Sex toys can be a great addition to any bedroom play session, assuming both you and your partner are both comfortable with it. They can be pleasurable for both of you, so here are a few ideas for you.
Pleasure for the V:
Pleasure for the P:
Pleasure for couples:
- Purple Duo Vibrating Ring
- Mini Double Penetrating Dildo
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