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The Beginner’s Guide to Getting Your First Vibrator

The dating apps are heating up, but the medical circumstances that surround our current solitary state remain real. Sadly, that means that all of the hotties you’re chatting up on Bumble won’t be meeting you anytime soon ? but being alone can be boring and every woman has needs. So, it might be time to get your first vibrator. 

I’m a vibrator girl. I know that everyone once in a while I could use a little… stimulation but I’m not really a play-the-sexual-field type gal. So, I’ve made a small collection of vibrators that help take care of those desires.

However, I know a lot of single women are a little timid when it comes to getting a vibrator. Or talking about them… Or really ANYTHING that has to do with vibrators. But since you’re all home alone and I have your attention, I figured I’d walk you through a few popular types of beginner vibrators and go over how to pick the best one for you.

If you’re looking for the cure to boredom you’re unlikely to find it. But one of these little guys can help you buy you a few minutes. 

**Super important note: This post is intended for adults only—I shouldn’t have to say it since I assume you know what a “vibrator” is but we are going to be going into some detail about what they are and what you can do with your first one. Consider yourself warned.**

What kind of vibrator should I use?

Classic Multi-Speed Vibrator

Don’t let the boring and straightforward look of this guy fool you, the Classic variable speed model is 100% a vibrator not a “massager”—though technically it is supposed to massage down there ?. It’s a sleek but effective vibrator model that’s perfect for an afternoon alone for any single (or currently alone) lady.

If you’re freaked out about getting your first vibrator, then this is the beginner vibrator for you. It’s only 7 by 1.25 inches, waterproof, has nob-controlled speeds that are easy to use and is sleek. It’s not as invasive as some of our other options and won’t freak out the vibrator newbie!

Rabbit Vibrator

The Jack Rabbit Signature Vibrator looks super intimidating and might not be the perfect first vibrator, but it’s a favourite among vibrator pros. That’s because not only does it have a dildo part that vibrates to stimulate inside, then the little “rabbit ears” help stimulate outside. It’s a great choice if you’re looking for ultimate solo pleasure. 

However scary this might look many agree that this is the best beginner vibrator for women on the market. There are a ton of different colours, sizes and even the occasional shapes—not all of them have to have the little ears on the end. 

Check out more rabbit designs on Vibrators.com

Wand Vibrator

While you can’t hide this bad boy very well, a wand vibrator like the Hitachi Magic Wand can be a grand old time. As a word of warning, I have a wand (which I love) but my mom was helping me unpack my house once and she picked up the bag that it was in and gave it the good ol’ hot tamale throw when it accidentally turned on ??

Embarrassing mom moments aside, if you toss this in your underwear drawer and slip it in your personal bag when you move you should be fine. These bad boys make a great choice for best vibrator for beginners because they’re super easy to use and they work like a charm. Plus, unlike the original which is a corded vibrator, this bad boy can be recharged! 

You can also bring your new vibrator to your significant other’s house, don’t forget to bring along your favourite piece of lingerie!

Panty Vibrator

If discrete is the name of the game, then a panty vibrator might be in order. This bad boy does exactly what you think it would, it lies right in your panties and you control the intensity with the little remote. 

If you want a first vibrator that you can hide easily, this is definitely the answer. It’s tiny and if you really want you can throw it in the sock (but girl, you totally don’t have to). It has nine different vibration styles and can be charged with a simple USB. Plus, it has a travel lock so you won’t have to worry about any mom mishaps!

Discrete Little Massager

This little personal massage vibrator is like a smaller, more discrete version of the massive wand we talked about earlier. But while discrete might be more tempting, it’s not going to be as pleasurable as the full-sized one.

That said, it’s less menacing looking which for a first time vibrator you might be looking for. It can be charged with a USB (which means you don’t need batteries but if you’re taking it on a plane it needs to go in your carry on) and it’s supposed to be quiet!

Clitoral Stimulator

If clitoral stimulation is what really gets you going (let’s be real, who doesn’t) then something like the Switch Clit Sucker might be the ideal choice for you for first vibrator. This toy uses air to directly stimulate your clitoris for an indescribable sensation.

This little guy is not really a vibrator, but it does the trick if you’re looking for some action down there. If you prefer licking over sucking, you can also try a clitoral stimulator like The Robo Lick.

Small Discrete Pocket Rocket Vibrator

The Pocket Rocket Vibrator is a discrete little machine that’s easy to hide. But small doesn’t mean weak, this bad boy has some real bite (or vibe?) to it. While it’s tiny, it’s got the power of a vibrator three times its size!

You can throw this bad boy into your purse or hide it in your panty drawer and call it a day. Anyone who happens upon it is unlikely to know what it really is, so no need to worry!

Vibrating Dildo

Alright, this bad boy is not for the faint of heart. This realistic(ish) penis-looking vibrator does exactly what you think it does. If you’re most stimulated by actual penetration, then this might be the choice for you. 

It’s meant to go inside. It vibrates, moves around and can give you a somewhat realistic experience—at least one that’ll work during the quarantine. 

How to Choose a Vibrator

Now that you’ve got some idea of what’s out there. Let’s go over how to choose your first vibrator that you’re comfortable with and enjoy using. We know that you can’t just waltz out to your local sex shop, so we’ll try to go over in as much detail as we can get how to choose one from a distance—get ready to blush ?

Think About Size

If this is your first vibrator, you might not want to go with the daddy of all vibrators, namely the massive bad boy we went over last. Because the size might just be too much to think about. Also if you have smaller hands, you want something that’s comfortable to hold and use.

Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes, so make sure to read the actual description before you order. Are you looking for something discrete? Then you might want to go with something smaller that you can hide easier. If you get something too big, it’s entirely possible you’ll intimidate yourself and never use it—and that helps no one!

Decide What Sensation You Want

Picking your first vibrator is a bit more complicated then just clicking “add to cart”—not all vibrator sensations are the same. Take for example the Tickling Egg Vibrator above. It provides stimulation from those fun little brushes. 

There’s more to a vibrator than just a simple buzz. So, think about what turns you on. Does clitoral stimulation get you in the mood? Are you looking for something that goes for your g-spot? Are you looking for multi-function?

Look through all of the bells and whistles of your potential candidates and decide what appeals to you and what doesn’t. You’re looking for something that works for YOU, not something that you think you should be looking for… go with your gut!

Get Something Sexy

Believe it or not, a vibrator has to look sexy to you. If it’s intimidating or unappealing, you definitely aren’t going to use it. Get a first vibrator that at the very least looks like you wouldn’t mind spending the afternoon figuring out how to use it. 

That means if the vibrating dildo made you scroll down the page and look around the room embarrassed even though you’re alone, it’s not the one for you. It’s OK (and really ideal) to go with something simple that doesn’t scare you to start with!

Keep in Mind Material

When you buy a sex toy of any kind, whether you’re going to use it on the surface or put it inside you, you need to make sure it’s safe. Read the description carefully, and keep an eye out for medical grade and non-toxic materials.

And make sure you take into consideration any allergens you have, and look at any special cleaning instructions provided. 

Get the Right Tools to Go With It

Lube makes playing with sex toys easier, even if those toys aren’t going in you. That includes vibrators, clitorial stimulators and otherwise. A simple lube can help make the experience much more pleasurable. 

When it comes to using vibrators or other stimulators lube helps to make sure that nothing sticks and everything glides. Skin can get a little sticky and your experience will be WAY more pleasurable if you use something to help you along. 

It should also go without saying that you need to clean ANY sex toy that you’re going to use on a regular basis (not to mention your hands before you use it). So, get yourself some toy cleaner.

Cleaning your first vibrator doesn’t have to be complex, it’s much like washing your hands, just give it a good clean in all the nooks and crannies and leave it out on a clean towel to dry.

Should I get a vibrator?

If you’ve made it this far and you’re considering buying your first vibrator, you’re probably blushing and feeling uncomfortable. There’s not a lot we self-shame more than desires, but they’re there for a reason and there’s no need to be embarrassed about it. 

In my humble opinion, every woman should have at least one vibrator on hand. Why? Because you have needs that need to be met (yes, I went there) and you don’t need to rely on someone else to take care of them. Yes, you can absolutely go toyless with your hands. But vibrators give a handy technology assist and, honestly, they’re WAY more fun.

Truthfully, there’s no better time than right now to experiment a bit with a vibrator. If you’re practicing social distancing and you’re solo (whether you have roommates or not), why not give yourself something fun to do? Honestly, as fun as the dating apps are right now because there are SO MANY options, you shouldn’t be meeting with anyone right now anyway. So, go for it. 

Vibrator Pro Tip: If you’re worried about disturbing a roommate with your first vibrator, do your best to find a quiet vibrator. Lock the door then simply turn on music and go to town… seriously, you’re unlikely to end up with one that’s louder than that!


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Are you a little vibrator shy? You're not alone. So many women are, but in this time of social distancing when you can't exactly go meet up with anyone ;) getting one might be on your mind. Here's a quick guide on how to choose a vibrator.

Still not sure how to pick your first vibrator? Throw your questions below, I’m happy to answer them ??????

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